|My younger brother and sister are both adopted from Vietnam and the rest of my family is your typical Scandanavian/European US citizens. This of course has lead to many a strange situation when people are trying to put two and two together. The crowning jewel was when our family was in Disney World a year after they were adopted. My mother was with my little sister floating around the pool. My sister was doing a typical 5 year old thing of swimming around and then coming up to our mom and talking to her. There was a Brazilian man nearby–obviously a wealthy one–that kept staring at our mom and my sister and then he swam up to where she was and had this following conversation:Man: “Is that your Daughter?”Mom: “Yes, she’s my daughter.”
Man: “No she’s not. She couldn’t possibly be your daughter.”
Mom: “Well, she is. My husband and I adopted her and her brother from Vietnam.”
Man: “Do you have your own children?”
Mom: “If you mean, do I have biological children, then yes. I have a son and a daughter.”
Man: “Well, obviously you love them more than your adopted children.”
Mom: “No. We love all of our children equally.”
Man: “No you don’t. You couldn’t possibly love these adopted kids as much as you love your own children.”
Mom: “Well, my husband and I do, and you can’t tell us what we are and are not capable of. All four of them are our children and we love them all equally.”
Man: “Huh. If we were in my country the people would rather see those kinds of children die on the streets then take them in.”
Mom: “Well, in this country many people are willing to adopt and love a child because they want to, and I love all of my children.”
The man went away after that and soon after our mom took my sister and went back to the room.
Megan is a white middle school teacher, originally from Oregon, but now living in China. Many thanks to her for submitting this story.