Author Archives: Charlton McIlwain

The Color of Breakfast

Our family (Caucasian) was at the breakfast table. My son, around 6 years old, said he did not want to eat anything. He said if he got hungry, he would eat breakfast at school. The local, public school they attended … Continue reading

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Which is Black, Which is White? Depends on the Color of Their…

Every day at 3 PM, I pick up my daughter from her Upper West Side [Manhattan] preschool and take her home on the subway. Most days, the same two police officers – one black and one white – are there … Continue reading

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When Your Young Daughter Uses the N-Word…

We had our own interesting little experience several years ago when we returned home on a furlough. Our little girl has been raised for most of her life in Russia. After our first three years here in Russia we returned … Continue reading

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Help! My “Brown” is Coming Off!

My wife and i have adopted one son and are in the process of adopting our first daughter. They are both local kids from S.F. county and are of mixed race. We have always celebrated racial diversity in our family … Continue reading

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Chinese or Blonde? How About Both?

Our daughter is mixed race, Asian and Caucasian. Because Asian genes tend to be dominant, she has dark hair, dark eyes, and darker skin than most Caucasians, but her overall appearance is Caucasian. I think because she’s mixed race, she’s … Continue reading

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So….I’m Not White?

When my daughter was in preschool, she was under the impression that we- we being her immediately family consisting or my mother, me & my daughter – were white. Granted we are very fair-skinned people. My mother has been mistaken … Continue reading

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Race Discrimination: “Is It My Fault?”

My son attends a very nice daycare to pre-k school in Brooklyn. He is white (of Italian/WASP/Armenian descent) and most of his schoolmates are black, as are all the teachers. One day as we were walking home from school, my … Continue reading

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White Woman Hair

We adopted our daughter when she was 3. We are “white” and she is “black”. One day in the grocery store, she was three at the time she said to me, “Mom why do people call me black and you … Continue reading

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Wash the Dirt Off Your Face Black Man

As a child, I grew up in Iran, where there is little cultural diversity. Pretty much everyone is some shade of olive, and there are little to no people from other races. My Father was business partners with an African-American … Continue reading

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Brown Girl Dancing in Circles

My husband is black, I’m white. One day when my daughter was little, I saw her dancing in circles singing, “Brown girl dancing in circles! I’m a brown girl dancing in circles!” over and over and over. LOL!! When my … Continue reading

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